Kashmiri
Wedding Culture and Traditions
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Kashmir is the paradise
of India. It is valley which constitutes Dal Lake, shikaras
and palm trees. The sight of migratory birds in a half frozen
water of the lake give a very impressive view to the onlookers.
Kashmir is the beautiful valley with mountains making its backdrops
and freezy air filling the atmosphere.
Kashmiri society is a symbol of traditions |
and rituals which have been carried since ages.
People are very warm and they believe in brotherhood. Kashmir
is also famous for its rich food and culture. In Kashmiri society,
the marriage is regarded a pious relationship between a man and
a woman. Kashmiris believe in caste system. When a search for the
prospective partner is to be conducted, it passes from mouth to
mouth that a certain person is interested to marry off his son or
daughter.
Kundlis or horoscopes which are called teknis play
a great role in match making. The compatibility of the couple depends
upon the stars.
After this kasamdry is performed, this is a ceremony which is acceptance
to the marriage. The family and relatives of the girl and boy gather
in a temple in front of deity. They exchange flowers. Often, simple
dishes like hot milk with crisp naan are served from the girl’s
side.
At the goom’s house, bua or paternal aunt of
the boy prepares the special dish called “var” in pure
ghee and garnish it with almonds. It is then distributed as Prasad
to all the relatives and neighbors.
Engagement ceremony is fixed where all the relatives
and friends of both parties gather and they are served with the
kahwa.
The maid of the groom’s family would then take
the gifts to the girl’s home. It will include ring, pheran
which means a kashmiri outfit, head gear and sindoor. She also carries
a sweet dish decorated with almonds in a silver vessel which she
herself feeds to the girl attired in the dress which has come from
the groom’s side. She is handsomely rewarded for her services.
Now it’s the turn of girl’s family to reciprocate the
whole process.
Till the day of wedding, music and dances are performed
in the every evening and the pink tea is served to everyone.
‘Livun’ is an exceptional ceremony which
is held in the kashmiri culture alone. The cleaning of both the
houses is done.
On the wedding day, again var is prepared and distributed.
Girl is bathed by her maternal aunt and henna is applied on her
hands and feet.
‘Devgon’ is a haven which is performed
in the both houses where priest would enchant the mantras and the
girl and boy will pray to the Shiva and Parvati to seek their blessings
for the new life.
At the lagan, boy and girl sat beside fire and Vedas
are enchanted by the priest. Both boy and girl cross their hands
which are covered with a cloth. The silver threads are tied on their
foreheads. Then they put their left feet on each other and then
on ‘Kawacha’ which is a grinding stone used in kitchen.
Then seven rounds are taken by them. Finally, they feed each other.
A feast is held where various kashmiri cuisines including
Sheermal, Vyath chaman and Nith chaman are served to the guests.
After the ceremony, when girl reaches her home again
for a re-visit, she and her groom are given new clothes which they
wore before leaving the house.
Another interesting custom after the marriage
is Roth Khabar where a one meter long and two and half meter baked
cake is sent to the groom’s house with dry fruits and it is
distributed to the neighbors and friends.
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