Japanese
Wedding Culture and Traditions
A Japanese marriage presents a mixed blend of
various traditional and western cultures. In Japan like rest of
the world, marriage is an occasion for gathering, fun and frolic.
It is practiced with the rituals which represent it as a sacred
union of two souls. Once a boy or a girl attain a right age of marriage,
a search for the suitable match is set.
In ancient Japanese myth, all things were created
by the marriage of the male and female gods, Izanagi and Izanami--Japan's
Adam and Eve. According to legend, these two gods came down to primeval
earth from the heavens on a rainbow bridge. Out of their union came
the islands of Japan, the sun, the moon, the mountains, the trees
and the wind.
The Engagement
The engagement is sealed by a ceremony called the yunio. The highlight
of this ceremony is the giving of symbolic gifts wrapped in ornate
rice paper. The gifts include: dried cuttlefish for its phallic
shape; kelp or konbu because the character can be written to mean
"child-bearing woman"; a long, linen thread to symbolize
the gray hair of old age; and a folded fan which spreads out to
show future wealth and growth in numbers.
The Wedding Outfits
The all-white silk wedding kimono dates back to the Edo era (1700-1900)
and the traditions of the brides of the samurai. White symbolizes
both a new beginning and an end, because the bride "dies"
as her father's daughter and is reborn a member of her husband's
family. The bride traditionally wears her hair up, fastened by tortoise-shell
combs.
A white cloth and veil cover her head, and her face is painted creamy
white. The bride changes several times, once to an ornate gold,
silver and red robe embroidered with auspicious symbols such as
cranes and flowers, and again to a deep-colored, highly patterned
kimono usually reserved for young, unmarried women. This is the
last time she will be able to wear this kimono. Irises are a beautiful
choice for the Japanese American bride; the color purple is the
color of love in Japan.
The groom wears a black silk kimono with his family crest in white,
in five different places. Under this kimono is a striped, pleated
skirt, or hakama. He carries a white folded fan and wears white
sandals. Many Japanese Americans still treasure kimonos handed down
through the generations. Renting an outfit is quite expensive: One
New York store charges upwards of $1,600, which includes the services
of a professional to dress you.
The Ceremony
The traditional Shinto ceremony honors the kami,
the spirits inherent in the natural world. After a purification
ceremony using a special branch called the harai-gushi, the priest
calls to the gods to bless the couple. The ceremony ends with a
ritual sharing of sake from three flat cups stacked on top of one
another. Popularly called san-san-kudo, this ritual can be performed
any number of ways, depending on your family's custom. The groom
may lead, taking three sips from the first cup, followed by the
bride, who also takes three sips from the first cup.
Then they move on to the second and third cups. The
sake is then offered to the couple's families. In the U.S., Japanese
Americans seeking a traditional ceremony turn to the country's Buddhist
traditions. One highlight of the ceremony is the rosary, or o juju,
which has 21 beads of two different colors.
Eighteen beads represent the couple, two represent
each family and one represents the Buddha. Joined on one string,
the beads symbolize the joining of the families. The san-san-kudo,
more cultural than religious, is also performed at the Buddhist
ceremony.
The Food
Each dish in the Japanese wedding banquet is a symbolic wish--for
happiness, prosperity, long life or many children. For example,
konbu is served because the word sounds like the last half of the
word for joy, yorokobu. Fish can be served with the tail and head
forced up from the plate forming a circle, the symbol of eternity.
Clams are served with both shells together, the two halves symbolizing
the couple.
Lobster is often served for its deep red color,
the color of luck. The number of courses never equals a multiple
of four, since the word for "four," shi, sounds like the
word for death. For dessert, a Japanese bride might choose to serve
komochi manjyu, which is made of gummy, sweetened rice with fillings
inside.
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